Father, husband, teacher,
coach, speaker, author
As a coach, speaker, and consultant,
I have the great joy and privilege of
working with individuals from all walks
of life - as well as couples, teams, and
organizations - to help them discover
and strengthen their profound capacity
for fulfillment, connection, and
wellbeing. There is nothing I would
rather be doing with my life.
Although I did not know it at the time, my desire for a deeper understanding
of human struggle and thriving began while I was growing up in a chaotic,
Whether through genetics or due to my early environment, I have what I would call a "reactive nervous system." Feelings arise quickly and vividly in response to what is happening around me.
Trying to cope with intense
external and internal environments as a small child, I chose perfectionism as a strategy. I thought that I could get control of my life if I looked shiny on the outside, won people's approval, and appeared to have no needs of my own.
This strategy was frustrating and exhausting - it only served to exacerbate my anxiety and erode my relationships.
Fortunately, I found some wonderful teachers who taught me how to create a more peaceful relationship with my emotions. My love of neuroscience also opened up pathways for insight into the biology behind our behavior and how we can successfully shift toward habits that support our goals and values.
When I look back on my life, I feel genuine gratitude for the childhood
chaos and intense anxiety that led me
to this path. In addition, going through
two bouts of treatment for leukemia as
an adult was an incredibly valuable source of insight. All of this was uncomfortable and challenging, but I am not sure that I could have learned the lessons I needed to learn without these experiences.
In terms of formal education - I studied biology and geology at Williams College due to my interest in science as a way of understanding and solving problems. My Master’s degree in Humanistic and Multicultural Education from SUNY New Paltz was instrumental in helping me think about human potential and the structural systems that support or inhibit growth. One of the most transformative educational experiences I have had is a clinical internship in Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center. It was truly eye-opening to see what a difference it made when people learned to bring awareness into their lives.
For over two decades I taught
courses in human development,
neuroscience, and leadership in
independent schools. Later I served as a professor of affective education at SUNY New Paltz and a lecturer at Stanford’s School of Health and Human Performance. The opportunity to engage students in the largest and most fundamental questions of purpose and meaning was consistently heartwarming and illuminating.
I would be remiss if I did not acknowledge how incredibly fortunate I am to share my life with a wise and kind partner who has repeatedly taught me the value of doing the next right thing with compassion. And I don't have any idea how to put into words what it has meant to me to be a father to the two young men I am proud to call my sons.
Blessings for a hearty life,
Be careful what you practice,
you are going to get better at it.
Awareness & acceptance
of what is going on inside
us creates space and opportunity for choice.
We can live gently & joyfully in the midst of challenge. Really.